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Seeing Her For Who She Is

gender, gender identity, transgenderThis post is for Trish, one of the bravest women I know and whom I feel honored to call my friend…

“It’s all right for a woman to be, above all, human. I am a woman first of all.” —Anais Nin

*Listen here.*

Who She Is Not

Let me be crystal clear…

She’s not a sissy who loves the way women look and wants to pay her homage by dressing like them. She’s not hung up on pink, ribbons, bows or petticoats.

She is not the “crossdresser lite” who enjoys the sexual rush brought on by hopping into women’s clothes now and again and masturbating.

She also is not that lifestyle crossdresser who genuinely enjoys expressing her inner sense of the feminine and feels at home in women’s clothing, typically having felt that way for most or all of her life.

No, she is definitely NOT any of those AT ALL.

Who She Is

She Is a Woman!

Regardless of whether you refer to her as a transwoman, trans woman, trans-woman, transgender or transsexual, the bottom line is this: She IS a WOMAN!

The Physical Does Not Define Her

You still cannot judge a book by it’s cover – and you cannot force a person’s gender identity to match their biological sex. (Note here: Gender and sex are NOT the same thing.)

External appearances -whether we’re talking anatomy, height, weight, frame, hair color, hair length, skin texture, shoe size, clothing, and so on with the outward visuals- do NOT arbitrarily identify who we are. None of those attributes mandate our perception of our own gender.

Physical traits such as those do not define who she is either; SHE does through her self-perception. That is the case for all of us. We ARE who we see and feel ourselves to be when we look inward.

We Are What We Believe Ourselves To Be

Gender identity is determined not by how we look, but subjectively by how we feel when considering ourselves.

It doesn’t matter what is between her legs, what she wears, how she sounds, if she is or isn’t wildly feminine in appearance or demeanor, whether she is sexually attracted to men or women, what her profession is, and on and on.

What matters is what she sees, feels, and believes within HER own life, experiences, and context.

A Place of Her Own

Regardless of how ignorant, foolish, harsh or callous the world may be with her, my door will always be open for her, and I will greet her with open arms, give her only words of understanding and encouragement, and she will never lack for unconditional acceptance.

I may be a Mistress much of the time, but I am a caring human being and her friend all of the time…

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