Myth #10:  Purging will stop the desire to crossdress.

Fact: Whether it is done under the auspice of keeping from being caught or asserting that the urge to dress has “passed” or waned, purging everything tied to one’s crossdressing ventures will not stop the cycle or inherent compulsion to wiggle into lingerie and/or full dress. When a crossdresser decides that tossing everything feminine he has will curtail his girly habits, this is simply nothing more than entry into a phase of denial and making the erroneous assumption that ignoring the “habit” or “phase” and removing all remnants of it will put the dresser back on the path of  (what he sees per society’s dictates) “normalcy” and “appropriate” masculine behavior. While the crossdresser may be able to maintain this semblance of “normalcy” for an extended period of time, the desire and longing to dress does not magically vanish (as it is not just a conscious choice as we discussed previously); it simply lies in wait until such time that the crossdresser can no longer ignore its strength and presence. The cycle then begins all over again…

Myth #11: Crossdressing is an insult to, a mockery of or “threat” to women and femininity.

Fact: With regard to such an assumption, nothing could be farther from the truth. In fact, those who crossdress appreciate and honor femininity to a great extent. They are giving an enormous compliment to women in their attempts to emulate a feminine appearance and accompanying behaviors. Panty boys who simply want to experience the titillating tactile experience of feeling silk, satin or microfiber panties against their skin are showing appreciation for an aspect of the female experience. Sissies openly adore women and show nothing but the highest respect and appreciation for all things girlie. Even the transgender client who identifies herself as a woman and longs to have her external appearance match her internal self is appreciative of “biological” women and their feminine form, dress, style, mannerisms, and so on. If anything, women should find crossdressing to be a most sincere form of flattery and the highest of compliments.

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Myth #8:  Crossdressing is uncommon.

Fact: While very few empirically-derived, accurate statistics exist that provide information on the true depth of the male crossdressing population, the phenomenon is considered by professionals and “experts” to be markedly underreported and, therefore, the real numbers unknown. However, one can (across multimedia formats) easily and with minimal effort find evidence of extensive crossdressing behaviors and a booming TG population. The number of transgender support and information websites, CD forums, personal blog and webpages, documentaries, and printed materials all attest to the relative size of the CD population in all of its manifestations. Due to the fear of negative responses and consequences of their behavior being openly known and, hence, a compelling desire to keep their “secret” contained, it is no surprise that a more accurate count of the crossdressing population has thus far been impossible to obtain.

Myth #9: All crossdressers have the goal of venturing into public while dressed.

Fact: It is true that there are a number of crossdressers who have a desire to eventually make their way into public at some point, and some who specifically have that goal in mind as part of their crossdressing journey. However, donning women’s clothing –complete with make-up and wig- is an incredibly private experience for many men, and they have no yearning whatsoever to make their way into any public arena at any time in the present or future. They are happy and satisfied slipping into their lingerie and favorite ensemble, and they want nothing more than to experience the comfort of being dressed in their own homes. Some crossdressers never entertain the idea of going out dressed, as that is simply not a part of their personal preference or individual goals.

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Myth #6:  The desire to crossdress is a conscious choice.

Fact: Contrary to the false notion of many who do not understand crossdressing, one does not roll out of bed one morning and decide that today is the day for dressing like a woman. This could not be farther from the truth. The great majority of crossdressers report having experienced a curiosity or interest in –usually very specific- items of women’s clothing (most often lingerie or nylons) in childhood or by early adolescence. The first experience dressing was most often borne out of sheer, innocent, and completely non-sexual exploration, prompted by a pure and simple curiosity and/or admiration of women’s clothing. The primary female(s) present in the early lives of crossdressers very often played either a direct or indirect role in their budding development as dressers and resulting evolution into a lifelong aficionado of feminine attire. It is an incredibly rare event when a crossdresser has his very first experience or inclination to dress in adulthood, devoid of any attraction to or curiosity about (dressing in) women’s (under)garments during his developmental years. Regardless of youthful experiences and influences, an adult crossdresser does not arbitrarily or randomly make an elective decision to begin dressing in the clothing of the opposite sex or slip into a pair of panties for no reason whatsoever.

Myth #7:  Crossdressing is a dysfunctional behavior.

Fact: In the psychological realm, “dysfunction” is defined and determined by the degree of personal distress and/or functional impairment that a behavior manifests in one’s daily life (i.e., career, relationship, social, and other life arenas). The act of crossdressing in and of itself typically is not the cause of distress, but rather the anticipated and/or expectations of judgment, censure, and condemnation by others and the maintenance of secrecy in order to avoid such repercussions are the roots of personal discomfort and angst associates with crossdressing. Furthermore, discomfort may also result from fear, the anxiety of potentially being exposed, guilt and shame (which may or may not have been perpetuated by others), and fear of one’s life being ruined due to the misconceptions and misunderstanding by others of the phenomenon of crossdressing. Again, it is not in fact the act of crossdressing itself that cause the distress, but the internal discomfort is a result of the negative consequences (judgment, guilt, stigmatization, hostility, rejection, isolation by loved ones, lack of understanding and support, etc.) one fully expects upon self-exposure or discovery by others of his/her proclivity for crossdressing. All this means that, while certainly crossdressing (as with any other behavior) can be a dysfunctional behavior if it negatively impacts and/or prevents one from attending to the responsibilities and obligations of daily life, this must be assessed on an individual basis; generally labeling crossdressing as a dysfunctional behavior is both an incorrect and inappropriate designation.

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Myth #4:  All crossdressing men are effeminate.

Fact: While some men who enjoy dressing in women’s clothing present as overtly feminine even when dressed in “boy clothes,” there are many men who are devoid of an externally and/or stereotypically manifestation of femininity. In fact, the majority of crossdressers often present a “typical” or even heightened masculine exterior, which completely belies their desire to crossdress as well as any degree of femininity they may long to feel. Once again, every person is unique in his/her appearance, mannerisms, demeanor, and behaviors – including those who do not crossdress!

Myth #5:  Crossdressers wear women’s clothing solely for a sexual charge.

Fact: Yes. It is true that men who experience crossdressing as a “fetish” dress –at least in large part- for the sexual titillation they derive from it. However, even among those men who do dress in women’s garments for such excitement, the strength of the sexual stimulation felt via dressing can vary greatly. For some, the feeling of sexual arousal may be mild at best, while others experience complete exhilaration. For those crossdressers who are transgender and identify themselves as women, the act of wearing women’s lingerie and clothing is done in an attempt to have their external appearance match more closely their personal sense of gender, and sexual excitement is not therein the primary goal – if it plays a role at all.

It is very interesting to note here the number of crossdressers –especially intelligent, well-educated, and/or professional men- who engage in dressing due to the immense sense of stress relief they find in the femininity and stereotypical and societally-reinforced notion of the “natural” soft, sensitive, and (especially) submissive nature of the female sex to which they relate and experience when dressed. While sexual gratification may well be a part of this experience, the mere act of dressing in clothing that represents “traditional” female softness and submissiveness provides an unmatched sense of relief and relaxation for these men who are accustomed to being in control and expected to bear great responsibility during their daily lives.

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Myth #2: Most crossdressers are gay.

Fact: This is a commonly assumed and very erroneous presumption. Statistics consistently show that over 90% of crossdressers (or slightly more) –specifically transvestites, not including drag queens or transsexuals- are heterosexual. While certainly there are some crossdressers who are bi-curious, many crossdressing men have wives and girlfriends and report to be sexually attracted to and interested exclusively in women. It is also pertinent to note that identifying as transgender does not imply a certain sexual orientation. Being transgender is an indicator of one’s personal conception of his or her gender association, not his/her sexual orientation.

(That said, as an important aside, I would like to make it crystal clear that bi-curiosity does not make a man gay – or even bisexual, for that matter. Even the occurrence of a homosexual encounter does not mean a man is gay. Let us be clear that sexual behavior does not necessarily define sexual orientation, which falls along a spectrum just as does gender identity. If a gay man has sex with a woman – or 10 women, does that magically make him straight? Of course not! A man is gay if he is sexually attracted only to and prefers sexual interaction exclusively with men. Conversely, if a man clearly prefers sex with women to men –despite a homosexual experience(s)- he is NOT gay. Depending on the weight of his preferences, he may be bisexual.)

Myth #3: Most crossdressers want to be women and/or suffer from gender confusion.

Fact: Again, the degree of femininity and the extent to which a crossdresser identifies his gender as female (or not) varies greatly across the crossdressing population. Just as there are some anatomically defined “men” who identify as women and feel as though they are women trapped in men’s bodies, there are some men who dress and enjoy feeling girly but have no desire to “be” a woman, and there are those who do not feel particularly feminine when they are dressed but simply enjoy the tactile experience of different textures against their bodies. Gender identity –regardless of external appearance or anatomical happenstance- falls along a spectrum from male to female and offers a range of mindsets with regard to self-perceived psychological gender. Furthermore, one’s gender identity is not defined or determined by one’s manner of dress; it is determined solely by one’s own individual psyche.

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Myth #1:  All crossdressers are the same.

Fact: “Crossdresser” is a general, generic, all-encompassing term, which is used to describe one who enjoys dressing in clothing of the opposite sex. The degrees to which crossdressing men clad themselves in women’s attire can vary greatly. While one crossdresser may desire to wear only panties very infrequently, another crossdresser may prefer to fully dress (even including full make-up and wig) whenever they have the opportunity. Some crossdressers prefer to be minimal in their dressing while retaining their masculine identity (i.e., panty boys or those who enjoy panties and stockings), yet some crossdressers gravitate to flamboyant attire and exhibit ultra-feminine female speech and mannerisms (i.e., my fabulous sissies!). Dressing styles range from soft, classy, sophisticated, and/or conservative to sleek, sexy, and/or slutty to a combination of the two extremes, dependent upon the mood of the dresser. Crossdressers may remain in the closet and indulge only in private or they may venture out in public, trying to look as passable as possible. The bottom line is this: The crossdressing spectrum includes every combination of dress and behavior you can imagine.

Each crossdresser has his/her own unique history with crossdressing behavior (including its origin, beginnings, and evolution) and reasons (of which he may or may not be aware) for desiring to wear items of women’s clothing. Sexual titillation may or may not be the (most) predominant part of the crossdressing experience. Also, the degree of femininity felt through dressing varies in both expression and feeling across crossdressers. The mentality of crossdressing spans a great range, including the following: dressing to experience one’s softer side; experiencing overt sexual excitement;  longing to be humiliated; enjoying the feminization process; genuinely identifying as a female. Given the scope of possibilities, each crossdresser’s goals will depend upon the uniqueness of his/her perceptions, experiences, individual personality, and circumstances.

Note: Relevant literature generally breaks the catch-all term “crossdresser” down into the following: transvestites, drag queens, and transsexuals. (I will elaborate on the differences among these types of crossdressers in an upcoming entry.) Within the following posts, I will be using the term “crossdresser” to refer only to men who have a proclivity for dressing in various articles of women’s clothing (from panty boys to sissies) but do not have “real” transgender issues involved. When including crossdressing clients who are transgender in their self-perception, I will specifically use the “transgender” term for distinguishing purposes.

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Although she already owned some lingerie and outer clothing, my shy, sweet sissy crossdresser had only historically been able to acquire random pieces here and there due to the necessity for great discretion. (I know how many of you can appreciate that fact!) She had accumulated over time –and one-at-a-time!!- a number of pairs of panties, bras, babydolls, skirts, blouses, and so on, but –prior to our shopping excursion- she had never gone on an extensive shopping trip explicitly for the purpose of expanding her wardrobe with multiple new pieces. Although she is so incredibly deserving, she had never bought herself anything really nice for herself! That has now changed!!

When we went into session to embark on our shopping spree, I’m not sure who was most excited! We had already decided where we were going to do our shopping, so we each parked ourselves in front of our computers – and off we went into full shopping mode! Once we were both (literally) on the same page, my wonderful sissy bestowed upon me a great honor: She told me that she wanted ME to select the items I thought she needed to begin building a wardrobe from the ground up as if she had nothing. Needless to say, I was filled with glee!

For three hours, we bounced from matching panty and bra sets to corsets to babydolls – and we were both in Heaven! We ended up with a nice “basic” collection of items that every sissy girl needs. Once she completed her transaction and we had verification of the expected arrival date of her shipment, we began making plans for our next shopping trip and discussing the pieces she most needs to add to her collection next. Neither of us can hardly wait!

My dear sissy girls, I don’t have to tell you that there is simply nothing like shopping with your gal pal to make you both feel utterly feminine! I’ll let you all know how the next spree goes…


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From another perspective, when you imagine her lying back, legs spread with a most substantial cock making her writhe, moan, and cum, you cannot deny the shiver of excitement that races right down to that tinker toy dick, making it twitch and wriggle. When you experience this rush, you find yourself bewildered and puzzled at how you can feel this warped sense of arousal over “your” woman being pleasured by another man. It’s confusing for you to feel jealousy and titillation both at the same time. You want her to be happy and satisfied, but you feel twinges of angst over having to rely on someone else to provide her with the sexual fulfillment she wants and needs. On the one hand, you feel at least somewhat proud of –and maybe even impressed with- yourself for being open-minded enough to encourage your partner to fuck other men. On the other hand, you feel like a pitiful excuse for a man for “granting permission” to your partner to seek out a “real” man who can please her sexually. You simultaneously feel that you have a choice yet no choice at all – especially if you have any hope of keeping your woman in the relationship.

Despite this cyclone of emotions, you know you have no choice but to go forward and pledge yourself to be a dedicated cuckold…


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As your first course of action, you try to compensate for having such a tiny worm between your legs by using your oral skills to please your woman. You assume that as long as you can use your tongue to get her off that you are making up for being unable to fill her pussy. However, you know deep down that this is at best only a temporary solution because you are still not giving her that sensation of stretching and fullness that her pussy needs – and very much wants. You can even integrate a variety of vibrators and dildos into your oral routine or use a cock extension in order to give her “more” – but still the song remains the same: Your dicklet is still too small. She wants to feel the “real” thing, and you don’t have it! What’s a little dicked man to do now?

So… You love your partner, and you decide you’re willing to do anything to keep her happy – even if that means giving her the go-ahead to find the gratification she needs elsewhere. You wrestle with the idea of allowing her to seek out other men – well-endowed men – realizing that you are entering the Land of Small Dick Humiliation. Nonetheless, you want her to stay with you, even if that means your lack of manhood suffers extreme shame and embarrassment because you are now relying on other men –“real” men- to give your partner that big thick cock she so badly wants. If that is what you must endure to keep her, then so be it.

As you come to fully accept your impending and inevitable status as a cuckold, the emotional turmoil begins… For an erotic phone sex session with me, Empress EmmaJane, call 800-601-6975. Must be 18+ to call. Calls are $2.50 per minute with a 10 minute minimum. Discreetly billed to a major credit card http://ratemycall.com/