Nothing pleases me more than guiding a new sissy along the path to femininity, helping an eager and excited girl-in-bloom look on the outside just as she feels on the inside. It is this enthusiastic love for all things girly that was completely ignited on a recent three-hour shopping trip with a wonderfully fabulous sissy who only needs something very basic and simple: a girlfriend who understands and appreciates her desire to dress and feel like a beautiful, sexy, and sophisticated woman. She needs a guiding hand and gentle support in building her wardrobe and learning to maximize her efforts to dress well – and I have very readily and warmly extended an open invitation to be her mentor in this crossdressing endeavor.

Although she already owned some lingerie and outer clothing, my shy, sweet sissy crossdresser had only historically been able to acquire random pieces here and there due to the necessity for great discretion. (I know how many of you can appreciate that fact!) She had accumulated over time –and one-at-a-time!!- a number of pairs of panties, bras, babydolls, skirts, blouses, and so on, but –prior to our shopping excursion- she had never gone on an extensive shopping trip explicitly for the purpose of expanding her wardrobe with multiple new pieces. Although she is so incredibly deserving, she had never bought herself anything really nice for herself! That has now changed!!

When we went into session to embark on our shopping spree, I’m not sure who was most excited! We had already decided where we were going to do our shopping, so we each parked ourselves in front of our computers – and off we went into full shopping mode! Once we were both (literally) on the same page, my wonderful sissy bestowed upon me a great honor: She told me that she wanted ME to select the items I thought she needed to begin building a wardrobe from the ground up as if she had nothing. Needless to say, I was filled with glee!

For three hours, we bounced from matching panty and bra sets to corsets to babydolls – and we were both in Heaven! We ended up with a nice “basic” collection of items that every sissy girl needs. Once she completed her transaction and we had verification of the expected arrival date of her shipment, we began making plans for our next shopping trip and discussing the pieces she most needs to add to her collection next. Neither of us can hardly wait!

My dear sissy girls, I don’t have to tell you that there is simply nothing like shopping with your gal pal to make you both feel utterly feminine! I’ll let you all know how the next spree goes…


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While it immediately looks like just a physical act, there’s much more involved in getting your jollies than just your hand and your cock. Self-stimulation –whether solo or guided masturbation- is an act that is progressively heightened by the addition and involvement of each sensory avenue. One begins with the most obvious sense -touch or tactile stimulation- in an effort to give your cock that wake-up call that will begin the journey to eventual orgasm. You might even stroke your cock while engaging in assplay or tweaking your nipples. Very often, many of you add that component that is essential to men, being the visually oriented creatures they are, and that is sight. You browse porn –pictures and/or videos- online or pop in your favorite steamy DVD. Some of you inject taste and smell into the formula for being even more turned on with attractions to dirty panties or a fascination with cum. Then, of course, each of you who embarks on a hot phone sex session is implementing that aural stimulation with the sounds of a sexy, sultry voice. With each sensory route you integrate into your (un)directed masturbation, you make your stroking experience more memorable.

It’s just like building a bonfire. You stack your wood, saturate it with an ignitable substance, and set your fire. As the wood is consumed in flames, you may throw another log or two on the fire, fan the flame so oxygen will encourage the burning, and/or douse the fire with more gasoline or kerosene, all of which perpetuates and accelerates the burning process. The various components intermingle and feed that burning process until you have a veritable inferno, glowing and raging higher and higher. I think that by this point you understand precisely what I mean.

Now, for as much as flooding your five senses with sexy stimuli will elevate your arousal, there is another aspect that is much more abstract and trickier to fire up. Since the brain is the body’s largest sex organ, mental masturbation –especially that which you experience when someone gets inside your head and pushes your mind’s hot buttons- is the proverbial icing on the horny cock cake. Now is when we shift our focus to masturbation of the mind – and being fucked from the inside out…

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After having previously read my thoughts and/or corresponding and sessioning with me, many of you professional stressed subs have readily acknowledged that there is something substantive to my theory. You tell me with the enthusiasm of one who has just had a great epiphany that I am definitely on to something and/or I have described your feelings precisely. This generally triggers a most intriguing discussion in which you experience a great sense of relief that someone “gets” your need to banish any and all decision-making from your world –at least temporarily. I, on the other hand, derive enormous pleasure from ensuring and explaining to you that I truly understand what motivates your need for female domination – and I do.

Now, there are always twists and turns in the specific scenario(s) and activities that each of you enjoys imagining and exploring during our time together. One of the most common fantasies that bring a large number of you that welcome relief is a hot, dominant strap on sex scene, frequently accompanied by your simultaneous engagement in ass play. Many of you have you dildo in hand, waiting to be directed on how to incorporate real-time anal stimulation into our strapon adventure. We explore your desire to be taken and coerced into becoming very friendly with my dildo. We collaborate on a plan by which you will ride or lie back and consume your own anal toy. We set our plan into motion. When all is said and done, your mind is whirling with thoughts of my bending you over and dominating you with my weapon of ass destruction, but… That “destruction” you experience is the welcome devastation of any sense of control you felt before we talked, and you feel like an overloaded circuit breaker that has been reset.

If you’re ready to surrender your control to my strap-on, I am more than prepared to give you an anal experience to remember. If you want to heighten both the mental and physical sensations of our session, have your toy(s) and lube ready to engage in some directed assplay. My dildo and I are ready to take your control and replace it with my special strap on serenity…

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Look out! Apparently, all of my wonderful sissies, panty boys, and crossdressers are coming out in full femme force and ringing in the first month of the New Year with a resounding girlie *BANG*. Your Mistress EmmaJane is so tickled to be hearing from many of my classy crossdressers and sissy sluts who were busy with holiday festivities and couldn’t secure that alone time when we could play dress-up. The month of January has brought me a windfall of crossdressing fare, including…

Sissy Slut Sessions

The New Year has brought to my doorstep some of those fabulous sissy sluts who revel in donning their next-to-nothing lingerie, shortest of skirts, cum-fuck-me heels, and luscious whore red lips. They love nothing more than prissing, prancing, and teasing with those pouty lips and swaying asses, and I absolutely adore them for their sassiness. They’re sultry, sexy, naughty girls, and they love flaunting the goods!

Panty Boy Phone Fun

My panty boys are also making their presence –and great affinity for satin, sheer, and lacy panties!- well-known. While dressing in their boy clothes for both work and leisure time, my dedicated panty boys often sport a pair of sexy thongs or pretty bikinis under their jeans and/or dress slacks. When privacy is to be had, they often like to romp freely in nothing but their feminine undies. Just give ‘em a pair of drawers, and nothing else is needed!

Classy Couture Crossdressing Calls

Those crossdressers who pride themselves on their tastes for all things stylish,  chic, and classy seem to be strutting their stuff with renewed crossdressers’ pride. As opposed to my sissy sluts, my sirens of sophistication enjoy looking and feeling like well-dressed, more conservative models of sophistication. The process of preparing one’s self –bubble baths, scented lotions, perfume atomizers, carefully choosing just the right outfit and accessories- is the foundation of fun for my fashion-conscious lovelies. Once they have prepared the canvas, these crossdressing fashionistas arrive at masterpieces of glamour, grace, and femininity.

I hope this New Year’s breakout of crossdressers a-plenty is a sign of things to come. Our individual senses of femininity deserve to be celebrated, so grab your panties in one hand, phone in the other – and let the festivities begin!!

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The following is a series of questions tailored specifically to clients who are interested in ass play and strap-on fantasies. Please answer as succinctly or as detailed as you would like, keeping in mind that your responses will help me get a feel for what you prefer, so I can lay a solid groundwork for our time together. While there may be an overlap of these fantasies with others, I would like you to indicate the other components that you would –or would not- like incorporated into your ass play fantasies. As with the general screening questionnaire, please copy and paste these questions into the body of an e-mail, and e-mail to me at Empress.EmmaJane@yahoo.com just prior to our session. If you like, we can review your answers as necessary or as you like during our session itself. I also highly recommend that you review the General Questionnaire as well, in order to provide some general, selective information on items such as session format, which are not addressed in this topic-specific questionnaire. It will not be necessary for you to complete the parts of the General Questionnaire that are addressed here.

1)  Do you consider the primary focus of your ass play fantasy to utilize…
a)    Manual (fingers) only
b)    Use of toys
c)    A combination of fingers and toys
d)    Other

2)  Do you prefer…
a)    a predominantly sensual, nurturing, and understanding Mistress (who may humiliate you only when necessary)
b)    a harsh, severe, and hardcore Domme  (who will humiliate, mock, and/or degrade you consistently)
c)    an unpredictable Mistress ranges between the two and mixes it up
d)    different styles from session-to-session, depending upon your mood

3)  How would you like me to address you during our session? Would you like me to refer to you by your given name or a more feminine name?

4)  Besides your name, are there any other terms –such as “pet” names of affection, naughty names or any other terms by which you would like me to call you?

5)  During our session, do you prefer to…
a)    Fantasize only about assplay
b)    Engage in actual assplay
c)    Utilize a webcam

6)  If you wish to incorporate “hands-on” ass play into our session, which of the following do you plan to have on-hand to use?
a)    Vibrator
b)    Dildo
c)    Butt plug
d)    Other

7)  Do you engage in assplay in real-time?    Yes    No

8)  If so, when you indulge yourself with anal stimulation, do you do this…
a)    Always solo and never with a/your partner
b)    Sometimes solo and sometimes with a/your partner
c)    Always with a/your partner
d)    Other

9)  What elements of ass play do you find most appealing – whether in fantasy or real-time?
a)    Manual stimulation by yourself or another only
b)    Use of toys by yourself or another
c)    Use of a strap-on by another
d)    Other

9)  With regard to other fantasies and assplay, do you wish to integrate any, some or all of the following fantasy components into your ass play fantasy?
a)    Crossdressing
b)    Feminization / Sissification
c)    Forced Bi
d)    Humiliation
e)    Bondage
f)     Guided Masturbation / Tease & Denial
g)    CBT
h)    Other

10) On a scale of 1 (being not at all submissive) to 10 (being completely submissive), to what degree of submission do you feel most comfortable?

11) Do you have a webcam? If so, will you want to use it during our session?

12) Will you have complete privacy during our session or will your privacy be limited?  (If your privacy is limited, I respect this fact and will be happy to work around your need to be less interactive or speak very quietly during our session.)

13) Please denote any other preferences you have regarding your ass play session.

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After careful searching and scrutiny, you and your partner placed your order and eagerly awaited the arrival of your special strap-on shipment. When it showed up at your door, you could hardly wait to tear your parcel open and inspect the harness and dildo(s) contained therein. Of course, you vowed to perform this special unveiling ceremony together, so the oohs and ahhs could be shared – and shared sighs of excitement there were when you took your goodies out and began examining them. Now… You have to tools you need for your new anal adventure, so it’s time for the real fun to begin!

Before you begin, ensure that you have some quality lube – preferably some that is made especially for ass play. Rule Number One is this: Do NOT be stingy with the lube. You must use it liberally in order for it to provide the ease and comfort that it is intended to do. While I personally prefer and use only J-Lube, a lube that comes in powder form to which water must be added until the desired consistency is achieved, there are several excellent lubes –including Gun Oil and Boy Butter- on the market produced with ass play in mind. Once you have your lube in hand, you are ready to prepare yourself for your role as the receiving end. (Pun very much intended!!)

In order to have this experience be as much as team effort as possible, allow your partner to do the lube honors – or at least have her help you. You will want to lube your waiting hole in at least (in my opinion) in a full two inch radius all the way around and out from the center. To make the impending activities even easier, you and/or your partner should lube a finger or two and gently slide then between one to two inches inside of your ass and slowly rotate them in a circular motion in order to get you wet just on the inside. Remember, too much lube is better than not enough!

Once this procedure has been thoroughly completed, it’s time for her to get strapped in and you to assume the position. Next stop: Strap-on sex!!

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You’ve gotten the all clear for take off – and are you ever ready! Regardless of your level as an ass player, you have committed yourself and your time to paying more diligent attention to and, hence, “preparing” your strap-on seeking backside for Round One of Arse Invaders. You have become incredibly aware of and made intimate introductions between your fingers and/or toys and your ass, grown even more familiar with your part-time playground, or found yourself happily better or re-acquainted with your “man’s own special love hole.” You have put forth your best efforts to get warmed up for the pending activities, and the time is drawing near.

During the interim, you and your partner have been scrutinizing potential harnesses and attachments. While a typical, run-of-the-mill, generic harness, which can be found in any online of physical location of a store that caters to accoutrement for strap-on play, is acceptable for beginners, you (and especially your partner) may find that it does not afford the strength and stability you need for markedly vigorous strap-on fucking. If you want to be more than adequately prepared, I suggest investing a little more money in a harness that is a bit sturdier in construction. That said, I would be terribly remiss in neglecting to adamantly suggest that you investigate the Vac-U-Lock system of harnesses and compatible dildos. In my book, that is the way to go with strap-on sex play – especially should you decide you and your partner wish to make her bending you over and giving it to you a regular occurrence.

While you will likely wish to begin with a dildo that is from a small to average size in order to gauge your physical comfort level with ass play via strap-on, don’t think you are restricted to bouncing from one average-sized dildo to the next because you can get anything larger. I’ll let you in on my secrets to bigger and better strap-on sex later…

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You’ve sparked her interest and have her mental wheels grinding. You’re behaving yourself and being patient, giving her time to digest the “interesting” discussion you had, and you wait… Eventually, the moment arrives when she initiates discussion and tells you she’s been thinking. You feel butterflies flitting around in an excited frenzy . . . → Read More: More Fun with Ass Play and Strap-On Sex: Selecting Sex Toys]]>

You’ve sparked her interest and have her mental wheels grinding. You’re behaving yourself and being patient, giving her time to digest the “interesting” discussion you had, and you wait… Eventually, the moment arrives when she initiates discussion and tells you she’s been thinking. You feel butterflies flitting around in an excited frenzy in your stomach. What is she going to say? Calmly, you sit back and prepare to listen. You know the time for the strap-on verdict has arrived…

Perhaps she takes her time, recapping your discussion of earlier and telling you how she’s been thinking very carefully. She winds her way down a lengthy explanatory path, prefacing her “decision” with a well-rounded preface. Of course, it could be that she cuts to the chase and gets right to the point, firing her decisions at you like a sniper opening fire from a rooftop. In either event, she tells you that she is agreeable to trying your strap-on fantasy, and she is curious to see just what that would be like – for both of you. She is willing to give it a shot!

Now, if you already share toy time together – or either of you have playthings you use for solo purposes, it may be that you already have a goody or two you can use to kick off strap-on time. Take a look at the options you have and proceed from there. In fact, you may want to increase the frequency of your ass play before you decide which toy –whether it is a dildo you have already or you need to acquire one that is compatible with a harness… and you need to help your partner find an adequate –and sturdy!- harness.

If you haven’t gone into the land of sex toys together, it is time to sit down together, browse the Internet, and get an idea of just what you may want to integrate into your ass play fun. If you have never –or have rarely- used toys in your ass play escapades, it is a good idea to acquire a few basic toys in order to get accustomed to with “receiving” penetration. Once you are comfortable with basic anal exploration, browse dildos and harnesses with your partner until you find something which you both feel is appropriate.

Now, it’s on to the next step…Strap-on time!

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