While it immediately looks like just a physical act, there’s much more involved in getting your jollies than just your hand and your cock. Self-stimulation –whether solo or guided masturbation- is an act that is progressively heightened by the addition and involvement of each sensory avenue. One begins with the most obvious sense -touch or tactile stimulation- in an effort to give your cock that wake-up call that will begin the journey to eventual orgasm. You might even stroke your cock while engaging in assplay or tweaking your nipples. Very often, many of you add that component that is essential to men, being the visually oriented creatures they are, and that is sight. You browse porn –pictures and/or videos- online or pop in your favorite steamy DVD. Some of you inject taste and smell into the formula for being even more turned on with attractions to dirty panties or a fascination with cum. Then, of course, each of you who embarks on a hot phone sex session is implementing that aural stimulation with the sounds of a sexy, sultry voice. With each sensory route you integrate into your (un)directed masturbation, you make your stroking experience more memorable.

It’s just like building a bonfire. You stack your wood, saturate it with an ignitable substance, and set your fire. As the wood is consumed in flames, you may throw another log or two on the fire, fan the flame so oxygen will encourage the burning, and/or douse the fire with more gasoline or kerosene, all of which perpetuates and accelerates the burning process. The various components intermingle and feed that burning process until you have a veritable inferno, glowing and raging higher and higher. I think that by this point you understand precisely what I mean.

Now, for as much as flooding your five senses with sexy stimuli will elevate your arousal, there is another aspect that is much more abstract and trickier to fire up. Since the brain is the body’s largest sex organ, mental masturbation –especially that which you experience when someone gets inside your head and pushes your mind’s hot buttons- is the proverbial icing on the horny cock cake. Now is when we shift our focus to masturbation of the mind – and being fucked from the inside out…

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Sometimes I will have a flurry of calls where I hear some of you express to me very similar sentiments. It is at these times when I feel compelled to address with you all these certain dynamics that I have found to be quite common. It is my hope that sharing these thoughts with you will provide you with some insight into and better understanding of how you feel and the fantasies you have. Today, I direct my insight to those of you who may question why it is that you secretly feel so very submissive, despite the dominant persona you show to others in your daily lives.

Over time, I have noticed that a very understandable trend has emerged: Men who externally present –in their careers and day-to-day lives- as “stereotypical” dominant models of masculinity derive a great sense of stress relief in allowing someone else –aka a dominant woman- to take complete control behind very tightly closed doors. It would seem that bearing an enormous sense of responsibility, maintaining strict composure, being well-disciplined, making executive decisions, and managing the problems of others all day long takes its toll, and the stress is sometimes overwhelming.

In order to gain some degree of relief, completely handing over the wheel to a dominant woman who will make all of the decisions for at least a while seems to be just what the doctor order for many of you. Whether it’s stripping you –literally- of your masculine persona and dressing you like a sissy tramp, bending you over and making you submit to her strap-on or humiliating you verbally or via a forced bi experience, a Mistress willing to put you through such rigors prompts you to breath an enormous sigh of relief because you only have to do what you are told. No thinking on your behalf is required. You crossdress, bare your ass, suck, and fuck only as she instructs you to do, and your submissive side relishes every second of it!

Are you ready to slip into some panties, feel a dildo introduce you to the submission of assplay or drop to your knees and become a cocksucking faggot? That stress relief and control you seek is just a call away…

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Empress EmmaJane, call 800-601-6975.
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After careful searching and scrutiny, you and your partner placed your order and eagerly awaited the arrival of your special strap-on shipment. When it showed up at your door, you could hardly wait to tear your parcel open and inspect the harness and dildo(s) contained therein. Of course, you vowed to perform this special unveiling ceremony together, so the oohs and ahhs could be shared – and shared sighs of excitement there were when you took your goodies out and began examining them. Now… You have to tools you need for your new anal adventure, so it’s time for the real fun to begin!

Before you begin, ensure that you have some quality lube – preferably some that is made especially for ass play. Rule Number One is this: Do NOT be stingy with the lube. You must use it liberally in order for it to provide the ease and comfort that it is intended to do. While I personally prefer and use only J-Lube, a lube that comes in powder form to which water must be added until the desired consistency is achieved, there are several excellent lubes –including Gun Oil and Boy Butter- on the market produced with ass play in mind. Once you have your lube in hand, you are ready to prepare yourself for your role as the receiving end. (Pun very much intended!!)

In order to have this experience be as much as team effort as possible, allow your partner to do the lube honors – or at least have her help you. You will want to lube your waiting hole in at least (in my opinion) in a full two inch radius all the way around and out from the center. To make the impending activities even easier, you and/or your partner should lube a finger or two and gently slide then between one to two inches inside of your ass and slowly rotate them in a circular motion in order to get you wet just on the inside. Remember, too much lube is better than not enough!

Once this procedure has been thoroughly completed, it’s time for her to get strapped in and you to assume the position. Next stop: Strap-on sex!!

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You’ve gotten the all clear for take off – and are you ever ready! Regardless of your level as an ass player, you have committed yourself and your time to paying more diligent attention to and, hence, “preparing” your strap-on seeking backside for Round One of Arse Invaders. You have become incredibly aware of and made intimate introductions between your fingers and/or toys and your ass, grown even more familiar with your part-time playground, or found yourself happily better or re-acquainted with your “man’s own special love hole.” You have put forth your best efforts to get warmed up for the pending activities, and the time is drawing near.

During the interim, you and your partner have been scrutinizing potential harnesses and attachments. While a typical, run-of-the-mill, generic harness, which can be found in any online of physical location of a store that caters to accoutrement for strap-on play, is acceptable for beginners, you (and especially your partner) may find that it does not afford the strength and stability you need for markedly vigorous strap-on fucking. If you want to be more than adequately prepared, I suggest investing a little more money in a harness that is a bit sturdier in construction. That said, I would be terribly remiss in neglecting to adamantly suggest that you investigate the Vac-U-Lock system of harnesses and compatible dildos. In my book, that is the way to go with strap-on sex play – especially should you decide you and your partner wish to make her bending you over and giving it to you a regular occurrence.

While you will likely wish to begin with a dildo that is from a small to average size in order to gauge your physical comfort level with ass play via strap-on, don’t think you are restricted to bouncing from one average-sized dildo to the next because you can get anything larger. I’ll let you in on my secrets to bigger and better strap-on sex later…

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You’ve sparked her interest and have her mental wheels grinding. You’re behaving yourself and being patient, giving her time to digest the “interesting” discussion you had, and you wait… Eventually, the moment arrives when she initiates discussion and tells you she’s been thinking. You feel butterflies flitting around in an excited frenzy . . . → Read More: More Fun with Ass Play and Strap-On Sex: Selecting Sex Toys]]>

You’ve sparked her interest and have her mental wheels grinding. You’re behaving yourself and being patient, giving her time to digest the “interesting” discussion you had, and you wait… Eventually, the moment arrives when she initiates discussion and tells you she’s been thinking. You feel butterflies flitting around in an excited frenzy in your stomach. What is she going to say? Calmly, you sit back and prepare to listen. You know the time for the strap-on verdict has arrived…

Perhaps she takes her time, recapping your discussion of earlier and telling you how she’s been thinking very carefully. She winds her way down a lengthy explanatory path, prefacing her “decision” with a well-rounded preface. Of course, it could be that she cuts to the chase and gets right to the point, firing her decisions at you like a sniper opening fire from a rooftop. In either event, she tells you that she is agreeable to trying your strap-on fantasy, and she is curious to see just what that would be like – for both of you. She is willing to give it a shot!

Now, if you already share toy time together – or either of you have playthings you use for solo purposes, it may be that you already have a goody or two you can use to kick off strap-on time. Take a look at the options you have and proceed from there. In fact, you may want to increase the frequency of your ass play before you decide which toy –whether it is a dildo you have already or you need to acquire one that is compatible with a harness… and you need to help your partner find an adequate –and sturdy!- harness.

If you haven’t gone into the land of sex toys together, it is time to sit down together, browse the Internet, and get an idea of just what you may want to integrate into your ass play fun. If you have never –or have rarely- used toys in your ass play escapades, it is a good idea to acquire a few basic toys in order to get accustomed to with “receiving” penetration. Once you are comfortable with basic anal exploration, browse dildos and harnesses with your partner until you find something which you both feel is appropriate.

Now, it’s on to the next step…Strap-on time!

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You have a partner, but you have not yet approached this woman with your yearning to try strap-on sex with her. That is the million dollar question: How do you present this idea to her? The answer to that question will depend on several factors, which you must carefully assess before you plan a strategy.

First, we’ll say she does not know you enjoy anal stimulation. In this event, have you ever hinted at or broached the subject in order to gauge her response – or have you blatantly presented the topic for discussion? What response(s) did you receive? Did she actively listen to you and interact or did she shut down and refuse to hear talk of such kind? If she allowed you to present your case, did she dismiss you as a sick pervert, seem tentative and perhaps a bit curious, or was she full of questions about your longing to have her use a strap-on on you?

If you have been vehemently overruled with the defense being deprived of their chance to present a solid argument in favor of strap-on fun, pushing the issue will in all likelihood prove futile and may make a sticky subject even stickier. Leave well enough alone – at least for now. Given some time to think, she may –or may not- come around and be prepared to actually discuss the topic. Just give her some space, and see what happens.

If she seemed to be mulling over your words as you presented them, yet she did not display much of an overt response, do not push for immediate feedback. She didn’t run screaming from the room, so that’s positive! Give her the freedom and space to decide what she wants to know and when. Maybe she is not against the idea, but she is concerned as to how that will reflect on her if she does it. The best thing you can do is be reassuring, respectful, and supportive of her own personal viewpoint.

In cases where her thoughts are adamantly oppositional or quietly reserved for review, granting plenty of time and understanding to digest your request may make all the difference…

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