With the helpful assistance of your partner, your virgin rosebud is wet, slick, and ready to be introduced to that dildo that your partner is just about to affix to her harness. Although she has stepped into her brand new harness, that does not mean it is mandatory that you jump from point A [...]]]>

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With the helpful assistance of your partner, your virgin rosebud is wet, slick, and ready to be introduced to that dildo that your partner is just about to affix to her harness. Although she has stepped into her brand new harness, that does not mean it is mandatory that you jump from point A to point B without hesitation or go from zero to sixty in 5.0 seconds flat. In fact, that should not at all be the case.

Based on my personal preference and the ensuing ease of progressing from the preparatory to the full action phase of strap-on sex, I highly recommend that –regardless of any other sexual activities in which you engage with your partner before you are ready to tackle her strap-on- you should take some time to stretch, relax, and loosen up a bit – and, no, I am not talking about your general bodily musculature! Whether it is intermingled with other sex play or done immediately before you are ready for your strap-on debut, you and your partner must make a concerted effort ensure that –again, only after being well-lubed- your sphincter muscles are as prepared as possible to open up to accommodate the dildo you have chosen for this event. This should include some general ass play with your partner taking more than just a few minutes to use her fingers, a vibrator or perhaps another smaller dildo –whether exclusively or in combination- to slowly and gently begin opening you up and allowing you time to relax and become accustomed to this particular time instance of anal stimulation. She should begin by taking her time and then gradually increase the tempo and vigor of this warm-up ass play. Regardless of the particular phase of ass or strap-on play I which you are involved, remember this very important point: It is much easier for you to pace yourself and allow anticipation and speed to increase than it is to proceed too fast too quickly, causing both your mind and body to become tense and potentially causing you physical discomfort. While enthusiasm is commendable and highly encouraged by your Mistress, I do not advise you to be so overzealous that you throw a roadblock in your own path – and maybe one that will immediately squelch your continuance with ass play and make strap-on play in the moment an impossibility that must now be delayed until a later time.

So… To recap: Once you are well-lubed, you want your ass slowly relaxed and stretched. Once you have opened the door (so to speak), it will be much easier to cross the threshold.

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Yes. It has seemed that making your way to this first foray into strap-on sex has required quite a substantial amount of time, research, and effort – and it should. If you want your first time –your anal deflowering as it were- to be the most exciting and pleasurable event it can be, then [...]]]>

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Yes. It has seemed that making your way to this first foray into strap-on sex has required quite a substantial amount of time, research, and effort – and it should. If you want your first time –your anal deflowering as it were- to be the most exciting and pleasurable event it can be, then you need to treat the planning and preparations for it accordingly. After all, you are dealing with an area of your body where special considerations have to be made due to special (anatomical) circumstances and limitations when one’s goal is penetration.

Now, via some initial ass play, you have accommodated for two of the most prominent special considerations -and potential instigators of problems- by (1) using plenty of lube to correct for your lack of natural lube in the anal area and (2) taking care to loosen your sphincter muscles, which were not designed for penetration. You have paced yourself and made sure to listen to your body as you progressed through the warm-up phase. If things were moving a bit too quickly (thereby causing you to tense up) or you detected that dry and abrasive feeling that signals a need for more lube, you alerted your partner and took the appropriate measures to get back on track. You kept your partner informed and aware of how you were feeling when things were moving along with no problems. You’ve been communicating with your partner on every aspect of this preparation, and now you feel that you are more than ready to push forward. (Pun again intended!)

Now, you are moving into territory where communication is key and more important than ever. You need to keep a running dialogue of input and feedback in order to help your partner help get you as in the strap-on mood as is possible. Talk to her, listen to her, and –most importantly- listen to the signals your body is sending you. Successful communication will lead to more pleasurable strap-on fun for you. So… Ramp up your communication skills and brace yourself for the main course…

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Oh yeah! Houston, we appear to have lift-off! You are even more excited now! Not only did your partner listen to what you had to share with on your strap-on fantasies, but she really seemed to listen – and was obviously quite intrigued, given her calm and interactive discussion with you. Perhaps she began [...]]]>

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Oh yeah! Houston, we appear to have lift-off! You are even more excited now! Not only did your partner listen to what you had to share with on your strap-on fantasies, but she really seemed to listen – and was obviously quite intrigued, given her calm and interactive discussion with you. Perhaps she began musing over how strap-on play might be from her playtime perspective. Maybe she smiled and said she suspected you were into that – and she has wondered about it as well. Maybe she breathed a huge sigh of relief because she’s thought about it as well, but has been unsure of how to broach the subject with you! It could even be the case that she began planning your first strap-on escapade then.

If your partner listens intently, stops you and asks questions, and/or frames her own aspect of the discussion from the viewpoints of you, her, and your identity as a couple, take this as a positive sign, but don’t scare the living daylights out of her with your rabid enthusiasm – at least not just yet. Even if she seems to be anywhere from mildly to moderately to incredibly agreeable, you should still allow her time to digest what you have (finally) shared about longing for and dreaming of her using a strap-on on you. Now that it is out in the open, give her some time to think of and imagine how she will feel in accommodating your “special” ass play request (or finally realizing her own!), and let her approach you with her own independent findings, suggestions, and input. If you encourage this new suggestion as a joint –aka team- “effort” in adding some zest to your sex life, it will be much more gratifying due to an equal playing field of interest and enthusiasm.

Of course, now that the door is open, you know there will be an even more interesting conversation to follow: With what do we play and when?!

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First, [...]]]> You have a partner, but you have not yet approached this woman with your yearning to try strap-on sex with her. That is the million dollar question: How do you present this idea to her? The answer to that question will depend on several factors, which you must carefully assess before you plan a strategy.

First, we’ll say she does not know you enjoy anal stimulation. In this event, have you ever hinted at or broached the subject in order to gauge her response – or have you blatantly presented the topic for discussion? What response(s) did you receive? Did she actively listen to you and interact or did she shut down and refuse to hear talk of such kind? If she allowed you to present your case, did she dismiss you as a sick pervert, seem tentative and perhaps a bit curious, or was she full of questions about your longing to have her use a strap-on on you?

If you have been vehemently overruled with the defense being deprived of their chance to present a solid argument in favor of strap-on fun, pushing the issue will in all likelihood prove futile and may make a sticky subject even stickier. Leave well enough alone – at least for now. Given some time to think, she may –or may not- come around and be prepared to actually discuss the topic. Just give her some space, and see what happens.

If she seemed to be mulling over your words as you presented them, yet she did not display much of an overt response, do not push for immediate feedback. She didn’t run screaming from the room, so that’s positive! Give her the freedom and space to decide what she wants to know and when. Maybe she is not against the idea, but she is concerned as to how that will reflect on her if she does it. The best thing you can do is be reassuring, respectful, and supportive of her own personal viewpoint.

In cases where her thoughts are adamantly oppositional or quietly reserved for review, granting plenty of time and understanding to digest your request may make all the difference…

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If you don’t currently have a partner or someone who may soon be, there’s not much I can do to help you on this count. The one thing I can do, however, is answer your questions, explain the ins and outs (pun intended!) of strap-on sex, coach you, and otherwise explore your fantasies with [...]]]>

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If you don’t currently have a partner or someone who may soon be, there’s not much I can do to help you on this count. The one thing I can do, however, is answer your questions, explain the ins and outs (pun intended!) of strap-on sex, coach you, and otherwise explore your fantasies with you. I am always happy to step into a role-play that allows me to step into my harness!

We can imagine many different scenarios in which you are put in a variety of positions, and pretend you -or your ass, to be more precise- are being shamelessly and aggressively put on the receiving end of a stout dildo. Make no mistake: I will tailor your fantasy enactments to suit your individual desires and triggers. If you wish to make our strap-on role play more realistic, have a toy available when you call, and I promise you we will integrate it effectively into our scenario. No. A phone call may not be the same as having a hot, lusty, dildo-wielding woman in your bedroom, but I will assure you that you will get the most imaginative, vigorous, creative, and enthusiastic virtual strap-on pounding I can muster. Given my own predilection for putting my strap-on to good use in real time, that’s a lot of muster! I guarantee you an amazing degree of vigor and enthusiasm – and one wild, frenzied ride!

All you need to do is drag out your lube, toys, and sense of adventure. I will subdue you with my mental strap-on seduction as I start you out on your hands and knees, ass curled high into the air, as you eagerly anticipate the moment when you will first feel the firm, wet head of my dildo nudge just between the twin slopes of my newest playground…

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So you like the time you spend playing with your ass. You use your fingers and maybe your toys, but you’ve now got a yen to kick things up a notch. Perhaps you’ve watched some strap-on porn and/or you’ve seen some interesting strap-on tidbits, anecdotes, or pictures on the Internet, and now you’ve got [...]]]>

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So you like the time you spend playing with your ass. You use your fingers and maybe your toys, but you’ve now got a yen to kick things up a notch. Perhaps you’ve watched some strap-on porn and/or you’ve seen some interesting strap-on tidbits, anecdotes, or pictures on the Internet, and now you’ve got a bee in your bonnet. You’re wondering just what it would be like to have a woman standing behind you, bending you forward, and giving you a good ol’ fashioned ass pounding with the dildo she has affixed to her harness. As good as it feels when you fuck yourself with a toy –or put that suction cup base to use, mount up, and ride one like a Wild West cowboy- you wonder just how much better it would feel if you were simply bent over or made to lie on your back –knees pulled back and legs spread apart- and ordered to take that cock like a naughty bitch. The more you think about it, the more you wonder. You question. You ponder. You daydream. How do you go about having this desire fulfilled?

If you truly wish to be ridden like a fiery steed, my first questions to you are these: Do you typically enjoy your ass in solitude? Do you currently have a partner (whether she be your wife, a girlfriend, a friend with benefits or just your run-of-the-mill fuck buddy)? If not, do you have any prospects? If you do have a partner, does she know you find it incredibly stimulating to engage in ass play? If she is aware, what does she think of it? Does she get involved or integrate ass play into your intimate time spent together? Is she open-minded enough to give you the anal probing you desire? These are questions you may have already asked yourself, and the possibility of your experiencing strap-on sex depends upon your answers.

Tomorrow, we will discuss how you put a strap-on seeking plan in action, depending upon your answers to these initial questions…

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You have certainly learned by now that I take my toy play [...]]]> Now… For my back door boys who are all too familiar with my affinity for all things ass play, do not think I am focusing my attentions only on my ass novices, and have in turn forgotten about you. That is far from the case!

You have certainly learned by now that I take my toy play seriously, and I enjoy –with great zeal!- leading you farther down that certain play path. In our efforts to heighten your more advanced ass play, we will push the bar and have you working up a lusty sweat more so than ever before. It’s not just about pushing your limits and stretching you to the limit; it’s about prompting you to branch out and enlarge your varied experiences with and acquiring new and different anal toys.

Our world of accelerated ass playtime will include taking a look at the methods and toys you have used to date. We will go more in-depth on the importance of lube and the best types to use for easier and more comfortable bottom banging. We’ll explore the perks of using more fingers, vibrators, dildos, and/or butt plugs. If there is one type of toy you prefer, we will discuss why it is your favorite. If you haven’t tried the gamut of toys that can give you exquisite anal stimulation, we’ll hammer out a plan for having you broaden your scope of toy play. We will even explore the realm of strap-on fun, and assess whether this is something you would consider, have thought of, and/or would like to try.

It is your Mistress’ opinion that you should be fully informed of the vast array of toys and techniques that are available to you for maximizing your backdoor pleasure. Let’s take you to the next level…

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