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The Dynamics of Cuckolding (I): Preface

Be Careful For What You Askcuckolding, cuck, cuckoldress

This cuckold of 2+ years ask me if I had engaged in cuckolding with any of my past partners. Upon learning that I have experience being a cuckoldress in my own life, he asked me if I’d always dominated the men I’d cuckolded.

Given my own personality, sexuality, attitudes, and experiences, I couldn’t help but mull over his question, as well as some of the things he shared with me, and offer up some thoughts and insights from my mind as a cuckoldress – AND underscore the fact that motivations and feelings about cuckolding a man can be vastly different among women.

A No Cookie-Cutter Cuckoldress World

Start With General Ideas…

I am a hardcore believer that, while generalities may be a natural and logical starting point, everyone has their own unique take on things; therefore, you can’t marry stereotypes and draw blind, arbitrary assumptions from those. We may want or expect that someone is, will or “should” fall within the parameters we have in place for ourselves, but that’s not how the world works.

So… While a flustered cuckold may want his cuckoldress to be a particular way or have a certain attitude that HE would like, she’s not a robot that has somehow magically been programmed to fit his mold. At some point, it serves everyone’s best interests to realize that none of us have a crystal ball and clinging to unverified hope can be a recipe for disappointment – and sometimes disaster.

To open your mind to a more honest experience, you first have to…

Ixnay on the Horny Substitutions

This cuck boy’s questions and comments reminded me that we all have to be vigilant in remembering that – and keeping in mind that a horny cuckold -whether he’s a cuckold for the kink factor alone or as a submissive male– is nonetheless a horny man who will have a tendency to superimpose his own salacious yearnings onto his cuckoldress and her own ideas as a woman, femdom or not.

No one is a mental ventriloquist. Voices can be thrown; feelings, attitudes, and opinions cannot.

Furthermore, something to always consider in such matters as this: Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. Hint: “Language” barriers… Example: 7″ => Men would think women want that in length, when women actually want something more along the lines of 7″ – IN DIAMETER! You get the picture!

…Stick With the Individual Details

While it may be natural for us to project our own wants and desires onto others, we must remember to keep in mind that we can be blinded by hope, desire, lust, and so much more when it comes to something we want which involves another person. Regarding the inner world of others, regardless of how well we think we know them, our sense of ideality is not always in alignment with reality.

This is where I come into the picture: You have some awareness that you “think” you know the score, but you want a woman’s opinion to give you insight into the possible working’s of your partner’s mind. I can give you (as a female, a femdom, a cuckoldress or all of the above) “many women,” “some women,” and this woman information – all, some or none of which may be in agreement. However, when you genuinely want help, I feel compelled to lay it all out there so you can be as informed as possible, and I’m not a smoke-blower, so you know you’re getting the straight-up scoop from me.

Now, back to cuck boy who asked me about my thoughts on cuckolding…

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