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Labels: A Cautionary Tale of Context

Defining, Defying, and Refusing Labelslabels, stereotypes, individuality, context

This week on multiple occasions, I’ve seen an absolutely fantastic commercial, one done to promote a particular station’s programming, but smartly styled along the vein of a public service announcement. The gist of the commercial was not allowing yourself to be pigeonholed, stereotyped, and/or defined by labels that others may arbitrarily, mistakenly, ignorantly or flat out stupidly try to force upon you.

Now, you know that made me want to whip out my pom poms and cheer from the rooftops, as the refusal of labels is something about which I have always preached to so many of my callers who truly suffer from genuine concern, worry, distress, and upset over others’ attempts to define them with inaccurate, ignorant, hurtful, ridiculously inappropriate, and even flat-out stupid labels.

Across all aspects of Life, labels should be put in proper perspective – and promptly put in their place. Within a phone session -be it based on domination, vanilla sex or  more personal elements- it is especially important to be aware of the potential mine field that various labels can present.

Individual Context Is Key

While labels can hold great sexual titillation within the context of a phone sex session -especially one where humiliation is a hot button- there are also those calls where sensitivity is a concern, and the last thing the caller wants to experience is humiliation.

A truly successful session and interaction requires a sharp awareness of individuality, which clarifies feelings on labels and how they should and should not be used.

The Desire to Be Belittled

If you wish to label yourself in a manner that will be seen, heard, and interpreted by another as derogatory, that is certainly within your right, especially when fantasies and sexual hot buttons are concerned, and you are entitled to do so. Casting aspersions on yourself in the name of getting off is one thing, and I have NO problem with that whatsoever. Those judgmental, demeaning labels of erotic humiliation are merely your trigger points and send you soaring into ecstasy.

If you want to be called a “little dick loser,” “deviant,” “faggot,” “pussy boy,” “sissy bitch,” “pathetic excuse for a man,” “dirty cocksucker” or any other label which gives you a sexual rush, that is perfectly fine, and I will deliver the goods without blinking an eye. You ask; I deliver.

Getting to Know YOU  Beyond Arbitrary Labels!

Then there is the unfortunate “other side” of the coin, where throwing out labels without direct knowledge of how the person on the end of the line feels about him/herself, certain verbiage, and what he/she wants in a session can be foolhardy, result in hurt feelings, and yield a session that sinks like the Titanic.

While I have no problem throwing a good tongue-lashing on you and humiliating you to your core, be sure I AM going to take the time and make the effort to ensure that you are comfortable and feel heard, whether you need a blast of fiery humiliation or handled with delicacy and care.

After all, our time together IS about you, who you are, and what you want and need, NOT who I think you should be or under the assumption that I am THE authority on what you need.

Whatever your desire of choice, I want you happy, satisfied, and fulfilled – whether you’re a sissy slut; a classy crossdresser; a straight, bisexual or gay man; one who likes to imagine being like a woman or one who IS a woman (whether in part or fully), regardless of anatomy; a sub who requires sensitivity or sternness; and so much more that defies the implications of simplistic and presumptuous of labels.

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5 comments to Labels: A Cautionary Tale of Context

  • Kevin

    Dear Mistress EJ, you write, “If you want to be called a “little dick loser,” “deviant,” “faggot,” “pussy boy,” “sissy bitch,” “pathetic excuse for a man,” “dirty cocksucker” or any other label which gives you a sexual rush, that is perfectly fine, and I will deliver the goods without blinking an eye. You ask; I deliver.” Well, I can certainly vouch that you will deliver! But here is a thought: can’t “little dick winner” be a valid trademark? How about you requiring me to write that on my forehead prior to our next session? Would this be a valid label, or is there no such thing as a “little dick winner”?

    Yours,
    Kevin (do you know which Kevin? I’m the one of decimalization 😉

  • EmmaJane

    Oh, Kevin… Now, you KNOW I could never fail to zero right in on your identity. You are in the upper echelon of my small but spirited pseudo-phallus brigade! You’re the (little) head of the cocklet class… the top tiny tenter on the totem pole!

    Don’t you think that “little dick winner” is a contradictions in terms? I know I do. However, while it’s slightly redundant, I could go along with “little dick weiner” – and having that etched on your forehead when next we speak would certainly bring a huge smile to my face!! 😀

  • Kevin

    But I must disagree, respectfully of course, as there are ways that one in possession of a little dick can win. For example, he can win a sports competition, or become CEO of a large corporation, or who knows, maybe President of the United States judging from the current race.

    Take that CEO: with all his wealth, he could treat a woman very well in most respects, couldn’t he?

    Now, our champion, corporate executive, or President couldn’t win where it counts: the task in the bedchamber would prove too burdensome for these poor fellows given their modest manhood. But, they are still winners, aren’t they EJ? And even though their winning is quite insignificant, why not let us think we are winners of a sort? That way, you keep us reasonably happy. And make it easier for women in the know to manipulate, mold, and manage us?

    Besides, I recoil at the word “wiener.” I like to think of myself as a winner.

    Am I asking to much to have your permission to emblazon with lipstick “small dick winner” on my forehead? After all, in any group of men, one gentleman always has the smallest dick and therefore, he would win the small dick contest among them. Isn’t that why males are so needlessly competitive? I could go on. Anyway, with such a painted forehead, wouldn’t that be a fun way to get me going for our next session, EJ?

  • EmmaJane

    My dear, hair-splitting “little” man, I believe we can agree that -like so many terms, labels, and notions- the concept of “winning” certainly is defined by personal perception and context; therefore, I will concede that the proud owner of a “little dick” CAN, in fact, be a winner – at least in some aspects.

    …But you know that all too well, don’t you, Kev, my darling? I have NO doubt of your ability to be a grand winner when it comes to your intelligence, communication skills, the way you treat women, and so much more. In those way, you take that top prize with ease and are a natural winner. However, speaking of other “natural factors” (you know, my mini-muffin, size-wise…), you have the heart of a winner but lack the penile physicality to match.

    Does that make you a loser by my estimation? No. You know I find you engaging, endearing, and quite mentally stimulating, despite your “stature”. 😉 You also have a knack for tickling my funny bone, so I would be most pleased to have you do so with and while having your forehead read “small dick winner”! What a treat for us both, I think!!

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