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Ultimate Domination: Taking Responsibility For Your Submission

*Listen to Mistress EmmaJane’s own words here…*

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It is a large part of my duty as a femdom to determine what my submissives need, what will push their hot buttons, where their triggers lies, and establish what their boundaries are.

While I invest every effort in making sure that I find those things that trigger the depths of your submissive longings and intensify your feelings of submission, I strongly feel that if you have an understanding of the true essence of the D/s dynamic and wish the endeavor to be a smashing success for the both of us, you know that your responsibility for that goes well beyond merely asking to be dominated.

The Importance of Clear Communication

What Is Domination To One Is Not Domination To All

From my perspective, your respect for my position, desire to please Me, and longing to be a good submissive should each compel you to be openly communicative about who YOU are as a submissive, what takes YOU to subspace, what dampens your submissive tendencies, and what you need from the experience. How can you ask to be dominated when you don’t establish what domination means to YOU?

You Can Have Mediocrity or Superiority In Any Experience

If you long for a “particular kind” of Mistress (whether it’s her style of domination, certain specialities of hers, her voice, and/or a host of other attributes), how can you determine if you’re getting any or all of those qualities if you don’t share information about yourself that will bring to light and clarify chemistry, compatibility, and shared interests? Communicating is the difference between not getting what you want, almost getting it, and be gifted with an experience of submission that exceeds anything your ever thought possible.

Let me try to explain this in a practical way…

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The success of EVERY relationship -temporary or long-term, personal or professional, serious or casual- hinges on clear and effective communication IF the relationship is wanted and expected to be solid, successful, and beneficial to the parties involved. Communication is crucial if the participants are to get to know and understand each other. Your relationship with your Mistress is no different.

When you walk into a restaurant, the executive chef is fully and solely in charge of his/her kitchen, so do you order from the menu or blindly tell the server that it’s up to the chef as to what he/she feels like preparing? No. Do you walk into your doctor’s office and ask him to treat you, yet you decline or refuse to share with him your symptoms or concerns? Of course not!

Submission Does Not Preclude Having a Voice

If you understand the importance of expressing yourself to your doctor, a sales associate in a store, server in a restaurant, your children, your partner, your co-workers, and so forth, it should follow that you can appreciate the necessity in communicating with your -or any- femdom. Failing to do so is shortchanging both of you and undermining the promise of both the domination and submission you want to see unfold.

Being submissive is about giving up power, surrendering control, AND still exercising that inherent power to define what you need within the relationship. That is NOT topping from the bottom; that is being an honest and open sub who knows how to give his/her Mistress “informed,” rich, and deeper control…

E-mail: emmajane@enchantrixempire.com YIM: empress.emmajane 800-601-6975

E-mail: emmajane@enchantrixempire.com
YIM: empress.emmajane
800-601-6975

8 comments to Ultimate Domination: Taking Responsibility For Your Submission

  • Brava!

    Yes. Yes to all this.

    Communication is they key to the success of literally every human interaction! You can’t walk up to the counter at a fast food place and expect them to read your mind and just hand you exactly what you were craving, so why would something as individualized and unique as what you need from a Mistress be easily assumed and inferred from hints?

    Communicate! Clear, concise, open, honest communication!

  • Empress EmmaJane

    Thanks, Ms. Harper, for your reinforcement on this matter!

    I think this common source of frustration is one that is SO easily avoidable – and it’s not even as though it requires a conversation in the vein of a Homeric epic. Productive communication can just as easily be the result of a direct, succinct, honest, and precise discussion. It really is easy and requires little effort – and then everyone is happier for it.

    Why that is equated to topping from the bottom by some submissives simply slays me…

  • Ms EmmaJane~ I say this over and over again- and I’m not generally a smart ass in public, but in my head what I really am thinking is “You didn’t call a psychic, cupcake, tell me what domination means to you, and how it manifests itself in your mind/life!” Just because we are dominant women doesn’t mean that means the exact same thing to any of us, or any of our callers! Communication is key, and I’m going to shout this from the rooftops!

  • Petey cream puff

    I agree with this! Since i started calling Ms Cindy she has taken full control of me and is my head feminization mistress. I was iffy about this as I’ve never had women control me nor ever been in relationship. It’s work but she’s spent a lot of time in dressing me as a girl and it’s punishment for wearing her lingerie as well as her heels and lipstick and getting off. She took pictures and video of me and I tried to explain but she giggled and said I looked so cute and adorable dressed like this and took me to Victoria’s Secret with Ms Fiona. Both said no man would let Women do this to them but I did:( it was a turn on and i didn’t want upset them. They said they’ve had past boyfriends leave them but they told me I’m not going to or they will expose me. They had me go out in my bra/panties with heels and sprayed me in perfume put lotion and makeup on me. The one that made me get off was when they applied lipstick on me. Everyone giggled at me and both mistresses said I’m their cream puff sissy forever and said I have to stay this way all the time.

  • Empress EmmaJane

    I somehow doubt you feel dressing in ANY lingerie to be “punishment”… 😉

  • Empress EmmaJane

    You’re absolutely spot-on, Ms. Stephanie!! It’s so important to determine on what page we are -or are not- with each individual so we can successfully tailor our session to their needs. After all, you don’t just roll up in Baskin Robbins and say “I would like some ice cream please” and expect the person behind the counter to magically know what you favorite flavor is. You have to ask for what it is you want!

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