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Click Your Stiletto Heels Together Three Times and Say “There’s No Place Like Being Crossdressed”

Crossdressing Phone Mistress EmmaJane 800-601-6975

Your Crossdresser Identity Is as Unique and Individual as Are You

No two people are exactly alike, and that same premise applies to my crossdressers as well. Given that fact, over my next few entries (in three installments), I will be discussing various crossdressing identities and how you find your own identity amidst all of the crossdressing diversity, attitudes, opinions, and suggestions being thrown in your direction.

Within this effort, I want you to see and understand that, while so many “other” people are inclined to stereotype and lump every individual within a particular “group” under the same umbrella, even you -my crossdressing lovelies- also fall prey to assuming you’re all a dime a dozen and nothing more than one of many. I want you to know that nothing could be farther from the truth… and we are going to find YOU!

So where do we begin?

Discovering and Exploring the Crossdresser in You

If you’re just getting started, keep things simple and do not let yourself feel overwhelmed. Take your time considering multiple aspects of the feminine experience of dressing and feeling girly, then decide what YOU like or do not like, not what you think or others think you “should” like. Focus on being true to yourself. Look for trends in what appeals to YOU – in everything from colors and patterns to panty styles and cuts to preferred skirt lengths and heel heights to hair lengths and styles… and so on. Do not forget to stay in touch with your feelings and reactions to the various components and elements of crossdressing. There is NO right or wrong; the only aspect that matters is what calls out to you on a personal level.

If you are more experienced in the art of crossdressing, work on refining, maximizing, and expanding on your feminine experience with those elements to which you are attracted and genuinely enjoy: lingerie, dresses, blouse and skirt ensembles, shoes/heels, accessories (wigs, jewelry, belts, scarves, etc.), hair styles/wigs, and so on. This is the point at which YOU should be settling into your crossdressing self, thoroughly enjoying the various facets of the feminization experience, and polishing and embracing your own unique and hallmark identity. How have you discovered you like to walk, talk, sit, and behave before, during, and after you dress? How often do you feel you ideally need and like to dress? How do you see the “big picture” and the future of your desire to dress? Now is the time for the dust to have settled where you can look around and see much more clearly.

As you become more comfortable with your own self-perception and experience, you can now begin focusing on and addressing various -and more complex- items with which some crossdressers inevitably face, such as (realization of) a self-perception that falls somewhere along the transgender spectrum (whether transgender to some degree or even transsexual – meanings of which are NOT the same); questions and concerns about sexual orientation and realizing that the desire to dress, gender identity/perception, and sexual orientation are all independent variables that are NOT mutually inclusive or dependent; determining how to integrate your crossdressing identity as fully and effectively into your life and relationships as is reasonably and realistically possible, depending on your priorities; and so much more.

Accepting Your Crossdressing Self

Part of accepting your crossdressing self is distinguishing between and appreciating what traits, desires, goals, and experiences you share with others who crossdress and those unique qualities, preferences, behaviors, attitudes, thoughts, etc., that make you an interesting, fascinating, and special individual.

It is important and can greatly lend to your growth, progression, and evolution as a serious crossdresser to recognize those shared elements which give you a sense of silent and anonymous support as “comrades” united by shared histories, attitudes, experiences, conundrums, goals, and so on; help you feel you are not alone; call your attention to the guaranteed fact that there are others who truly understand how you feel and the challenges you face on both short and long-term, as well as past, present, and future, levels;

Regardless of the context (whether full, partial or other) in which you wish to dress and express your own sense of femininity, NO ONE but you knows who you are when left to your own devices and expressing your own ideas, opinions, and desires. NO ONE can tell you what you find most appealing, attractive, and feel your best when wearing or being. Be true to yourself. Embrace yourself as you are. Make those choices that appeal most to YOU.

Now is the time to see the special and unique beauty of yourself in every aspect of who you are – and appreciate that beauty because you ARE one-of-a-kind and wonderful just the way you are!

Next up… Part 2 of a 3-part installment: Finding the Support System You Need

Transgender, Feminization, and Crossdressing Phone Mistress EmmaJane 800-601-6975

4 comments to Click Your Stiletto Heels Together Three Times and Say “There’s No Place Like Being Crossdressed”

  • Hannah

    EmmaJane is a godsend when it comes to understanding the deeper needs of crossdressing men, conversations with her are both liberating and insightful making for a mind blowing climax

  • Empress EmmaJane

    Thank you for that lovely compliment, my dearest Hanna. As you know, I have such a passion for crossdressers, and I hold them all in high esteem. I only wish more people knew of the vast spectrum of crossdressing identities and understood that each crossdresser is a unique individual. That is one of the reasons that I long and strive to understand each crossdresser as much as I want to help him/her understand him/herself. From those who dress for the sensual experience to those who feel more in touch with the feminine side of themselves to those who have a genuine transgender identity that accompanies their dressing, every single crossdresser is an intriguing and interesting person and deserves to have an exceptional and tailored experience that matches their own unique experience and perception. You, my dear, are captivating, and I am taking great delight in sharing your history, thoughts, fantasies, and goals. You are simply exquisite! 🙂

  • jim

    hi miss emma,

    one of my earliest fantasies had to do with cross dressing. basically it involves an older woman, probably a middle aged neighbor or something. she has me over or I am over her house for one reason or another, maybe to do a chore or take care of her pets or whatever. I feel pretty timid around her. I have a little crush of sorts though I know that is absurd so I try to hide it. she invites me into her bedroom at one point. there’s nothing sexual going on its more just to talk. she’s asking me questions about myself. the atmosphere is very relaxed though I am myself a bit nervous and she is very confidant and in control. I find her very pretty. as we talk I notice a basket of clean laundry. on the top are a lot of feminine under things – panties, half-slips, bras. She asks me some subtle questions about my masculinity. Nothing too overt but she does ask – “am I rugged” etc kinds of things. at one point she simply reaches down and picks up a pair of the panties and almost casually spreads them out beside her on the bed. she does the same with one of the bras but continues to talk and ask me questions casually as she spreads them out with her hands. I am sitting across from her. I feel very small there with her. She fascinates me and I am so attracted but do not feel at all ‘equal’ to her to say the least. I am sort of trying my best to be in her approval or seem like an ok guy. at one point she smiles at me and says “some boys are just not as masculine……are they sweetheart”? Her hand brushes over the panties softly. I feel overwhelmed and cannot really say anything. She seems to know this or at least understand it. after a long silence she says in a very soft warm tone “I’d like you to take of your blouse now”. I am aware she used the word “blouse” and not “shirt”. I feel in a trance and like I really want to do what she tells me. I sort of know where this is going but not totally. It feels absurdly embarrassing not to object but I am overwhelmed with wanting to do what she tells me and not disappoint her. I feel in a trance.

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