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The Stress and Submission Love Affair (Part Two)

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In Need of a Guiding Hand

For some men, the manifestation of stress relief submissive style comes in the form of having their masturbation guided and controlled. The femdom delivering the goods assumes the responsibility for how the self-pleasuring session plays out, including when -and sometimes IF- release is granted. Either way, he is relieved of having to make any decisions.

In the Pink of Things

Then there are those men who go for some form of feminization when stressed to the max. Sissification… Crossdressing… Pantified only…

Being dressed by a sensual OR hardcore femdom in something soft and pretty takes him to a place of calm and subservience. He is hers to mold in a feminine way, one which visually could not be any more different than the business suit, hardhat, khakis or button-down that he wears every day.

Taking Him Down a Peg

Sometimes there’s nothing like a good, hard pounding to relieve a bit of tension – and with many a Type A man who wants to give it up and submit, what he wants to surrender for control to a femdom is his ass. He wants to be anally invaded and conquered!

Whether he enjoys having a vibrator stuffed in his derriere and turned on high or grabbing his ankle’s to get girl-fucked by a strap-on, a hot round of anal play will leave a stressed out man panting and mumbling, “What stress?”

Being Put in His Place

When he sits at the top of the heap day after day, some men want to be made to feel like they belong at the bottom. This calls for a dose of erotic humiliation. That can be delivered in the form of verbal humiliation, feminization, coerced bi, pegging, public humiliation, cum-eating, small dick humiliation, and more.

For the individual man, this stress-relieving humiliation may focus on just one of these forms of submission or it may be a combination of submissive avenues that gives him that feeling of being recharged once again.

Putting Something in Your Mouth to Keep You Quiet

…And then we have the submissive menu option of cum-eating. Oh! To take your cum to your own mouth and savor it… That’s an act that can send even the most tightly wound and tense control freak into an ecstatic subspace, which provides that place of just being that he is never allowed to experience in his daily life.

Only Part of the List

These are just some of the ways in which overextended, anxious, stressed out men can seek out submission for a free pass from having to feel like the one who is required to do it all. While I have found the aforementioned forms of submission to be common requests for the achievement of stress relief, in closing, I feel I need to also mention the effectiveness of sensual CBT, chastity, body worship, cuckolding, spanking, and giantess fantasies. Of course, the list STILL goes on…

If you’re a man who finds your stress relief in becoming a domme’s sub, bitch, bottom boi, slave, girl, slut or pet, how do you find your domination best served?

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The Stress and Submission Love Affair (Part One)

male submissive, submission, femdomOh, The Pressure!

Stress and submission… It’s on a regular occasion when I hear evidence of these two experiences going hand-in-hand.

I have found this partnership to come into play particularly with men who are paragons of the go-getter mentality. They’re dedicated, driven, committed, goal-oriented, and feel that failure is not an option. Going full throttle is the only speed they know, and they are without a doubt very dominant in their daily lives.

These men often hold positions in their careers which demand a great amount of responsibility, carry constant expectations, and expect more from themselves than anyone else in the pursuit of getting the job done. They know the results they desire, and they invest 100% of themselves in taking their vision of success from a mental concept to a reality.

Who would think that a man like this would make the perfect, secret submissive???

More About the Secret Submissive

As he strives to manage all those things that he or others expect of him, the tension builds, and he gets to the point where the stress is overwhelming.

It’s no wonder that a time arrives when a man like this just wants to forget who and how he typically is. He’s mentally, if not physically, exhausted, and he merely wants a respite from the demands of his life.

He just needs a break. He needs to relax. He needs something to take the edge off. This is where submission -and a scorching hot session of domination phone sex!- comes to his rescue.

Handing Over Control

The perfect prescription for such a man as I have described above can be putting himself in the hands of and surrendering to a strong, dominant woman, who will take him in hand and assume control over him.

He needs a femdom to make decisions for him and bring out that submissive man inside him, a man who is the radical antithesis to the man-in-charge others see his as each day.

He wants to experience that sense of relief that comes from not having to be the one who makes the rules, closes the deals, swiftly implements last-minute changes of plans, oversees others, and issues important mandates.

For this man, nothing lightens his load (pun intended?) like offering his complete sexual submission to a woman who know how to handle him – and will.

This man’s submissive stress relief can take many forms…

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Showcasing the Small Stuff

The Good, the Bad, and the Counterintuitive

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It’s typically the case that human beings like to put on display, share, and sing the praises of those things about themselves for which they expect other people to feel admiration.

On the other hand, part of being human is having a natural desire to keep under wraps those things about ourselves which we feel do not meet certain standards or may be ridiculed or mocked.

It’s all about making a good impression and putting your best foot forward. Brandishing a caplet-sized cock does not fit into that behavioral schema – unless your end-goal is small penis humiliation!

Pride and the Puny Pecker

While many men who are under par in the underpants feel so embarrassed, shy, and humiliated that they’re compelled to keep their bantam business hidden away from the view of women, there are those brave souls -aka small penis humiliation junkies– who like to whip out their little wiggle worms and pridefully ask ask a woman to take a look…

Why Would You Wanna Show Off Something So Shameful?

small penis humiliationAll that said, I now have only one question: If you have a little clitty in your panties or a cigar butt in your undies, WHY on Earth are you so proud of that and want everyone to see it – especially an attractive woman?!

You know damn well it’s not impressive; in fact, it’s pathetic and ridiculous. It’s a lost cause, and no woman is EVER going to look longingly at your pseudo-girl bits or little piece of dick.

You know that little strip of skin has “sensually humiliate me, Ms. EmmaJane” written all over it (in very tiny lettering, of course!!)– and you must know that waving that eleventh finger… that number two pencil stub… that human Tootsie Roll Midgee… IS going to bring to you plenty of humiliation, laughter, and mockery!

Seeing Is Believing

The icing on the small penis humiliation cake here is when you want to “prove” yourself on cam, and you then take extreme delight in revealing your minuscule member, that typically squirts faster than you can say, “Boy, that thing is tiny!”

You’re on Cloud Nine when you’re doing the two-finger tweak with that toy-dick, and the stiffy you get is a clear testament to the pleasure you take in polishing your miniature knob, that you know is going to go off way too soon, like a defective firecracker.

Amusing? Yes. Hilarious? Yes. Ridiculous? Yes. Should you feel humiliated? YES!

If you are the owner of a piece of meat that requires a slider as opposed to a regular or jumbo bun, what goes through your mind when you ask to show yourself via pic or webcam? Share your thoughts in the comment section.

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The Profundity and Importance of Acceptance (Conclusion)

feminization, crossdressing, transgender, transsexual, bigender, sissyWell, I know I went blazing a trail with this one, my transgender beauties and gentlemen aficionados of feminization, but we’re now -yes, finally- at the end of (this round of!) my love-and-accept-yourself marathon.

Let’s wind things down with attention to the fact that there is…

No Such Thing as Human Perfection

Consistently remind yourself that no one is perfect; no one is meant to be. We are all flawed, but we need to accept our own flaws and simply strive to be the best we can be. Regardless of the way feminization is a part of your own story, it is NOT a chapter on how you are wrong, imperfect, less than or inherently flawed.

Understand that your anatomy not coinciding with your sense of gender or being a man who is very much in touch with his own sense of the feminine is NOT a character flaw. Being a trans woman or a crossdressing man is NOT some sign of a grievous imperfection in your design.

When you begin questioning your merit, give yourself a reminder that you are experiencing a normal part of being human and reinforce the fact that you ARE only human. Your beauty and value lies in being imperfect – and one’s gender identity or desire to crossdress is no more an imperfection that is being black or white, tall or short, young or old, slender or curvaceous!

Being short-tempered, always late, overly critical, lazy, narrow-minded, rude… THOSE are imperfections! Being feminine is not!!

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Don’t compare yourself to other people. Remember that you are a one-of-a-kind individual who is like no one else. Appreciate your uniqueness. That’s what makes you special!

Do something nice just for yourself on a regular basis, just because you deserve it! Curl up with a good book. Chill out with a glass of vino while listening to your favorite music. Watch that movie you love, which no one else seems to get. Indulge yourself in a guilty pleasure. Do something for you and only you!

Set boundaries – and enforce them. Everyone is entitled to lay out their lines in the sand of what is acceptable and not acceptable to them and what they will and will not tolerate from others.

Know your own personal boundaries, and forbid allowing them to be crossed. Self-defense of your boundaries is a responsibility you owe to yourself to own.

If you feel you need some external validation, seek out a TG or CD support group of like-minded people, who will help lift you up and feel not so alone. This is certainly a case where there is safety in numbers, that sense of safety in being that you do not feel you are the only one who is TG or crossdressing and experiencing and feeling those things that you are.

Know yourself. Be yourself. Love yourself. You deserve it…

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“Pick myself up, turn the world on its head
Don’t forget what, don’t forget what my mama said
People talking since the beginning of time
Unless they paying your bills, pay them bitches no mind

And if I fly, or if I fall
Least I can say I gave it all
And if I fly, or if I fall
I’m on my way, I’m on my way”

~~~RuPaul Charles

The Profundity and Importance of Acceptance (Part Six)

In this next-to-last post-from-the-transgender-crossdresser-sissy-soapbox, I want to give you a few more suggestions on things youcrossdressing, transgender can do to help change your inner dialogue to a more positive and accepting one, so… Here we go again, working to help you accept and adore your TG/TS identity or your fabulous crossdressing self!!

Become Your Own Best Friend

Talk to and treat yourself as you would your very best, truest friend in the world, whom you love, respect, adore, and without whom you wonder how you could possibly live.

We’re talking about that best friend for whom you would walk over hot coals… that person who you unconditionally accept and admire for always being real with you.

Show Yourstransgender support, crossdresser, sissyelf the Love!

You would be sure to tell your best friend how much you care for, appreciate, and admire then, so do nothing less than the same for yourself. You would do whatever it took to lift his/her spirits, give your most unwavering support, and stand beside this person no matter what, so direct that same depth of caring and feeling to yourself!

Never speak to, treat, judge, unfairly scrutinize, take for granted or malign yourself, as you would never dream of doing so to your best friend. Would you encourage your best friend to purge in an effort to try eliminating their feminine self, their Womanhood or their crossdressing? No, you wouldn’t – so no purging for you either, Honey! Respect yourself!!

Consider the Whole, Not Just the Parts

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Like everyone on this Earth, you are a complex, intricate, multifaceted being. Know that you’re more than just your gender id, yen for crossdressing or your attraction to any other manifestation of feminization. Appreciate yourself in your entirety as a human being.

We All Do It!

Acknowledge that everyone experiences self-doubt; you do not corner the market on questioning yourself.

Even the most outwardly confident of people have misgivings and moments of apprehension, hesitation, and confusion about who they are or are not. This is yet another part of the human condition.

Do not allow yourself to breathe life into those self-doubts. Just say “no, not today” and stop them in their tracks!

Another one down, and only one more pep talk to go in this special series for my transgender gals and crossdressing fellows…

 

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